Had a thought about this earlier:
Imagine that your family, over the course of twenty years, has run up $9000 in debt. Father passes away, but income stays pretty much the same at about $21,000. The oldest child, 23, takes control of the family finances, and proceeds to run up another $5000 in debt in three months, then demands to know why the banks don't give him more money.
Any thoughts on whether that analogy fits?