The one male I fell in lust with had just gotten out of the Marine's and worked at a prison as secretary for the Chaplin's Office.
He came from a good family, after a year HE decided he wanted to get married, my family was all so thrilled, too thrilled for me.
I became aware that my parents were using him to control me, their only child, my woman's intuiting went off so loud I could feel my hair rise.
I had no idea what was wrong except that being under the thumb of a husband that followed the wishes of my family and not mine was very unnerving. By luck I happend to over hear Mother telling him that when we married he was free to go out of state to College and he had no worry about me, I could fly out to see him every few months and then spend my time going to work, coming home and he was not to worry I would go anywhere without their OK. ===No girls nights outs or make any decisions of my own.
To make along story short, Come Xmas my boyfriend wanted me to meet some of his family out of state. My parents were to go on a week vacation and raised the roof that I had to stay home to insure the neighbors did not break in and steal mothers underware.
Incomes girl friend to the rescue with a blind date. Cocky little dude, but shy around woman. Crap I found perhaps the only E-5 Sailor in the Sub service that was a virgin. So within 6 weeks I broke of my engagement, and eloped with a man that was all so loveable. Kind ,sincere and the wedding day we had eloped I could not but marvel at the paths one takes-- Here I was going forward into life with a Man I had never had sex with, had never meet his family who came from Finland originally.
One of the best decisions I ever made---Lust turned to love in a short time.
The old boyfriend kept in touch with us for 20 years after, he had discovered he was bisexual in College and every 5 years would show up at my door I imagine to thank me for not marrying him--------He never did marry a women.
The Shy Sailor I married, unfortunately we just could not live together. But he did give us both the greatest gift, our son who loves us both. To my delight he in middle age found his first love and they married. She was his little red headed girl from his high school days.
One just never knows when Fate will come a knocking at the door.
