My boss slapped my hand Tuesday

[dutch508]

XanaDUer2 (1,629 posts)
https://www.democraticunderground.com/100215414863

My boss slapped my hand Tuesday

you, my DU family, have kindly read and commented on my posts here. Mainly, my toxic job, mental health, and future attempt to get SSDI ( please make it easier to get, Mr Biden. Disabled Americans are counting on you).


Anyway, I was helping her with some PC wires, she told me to watch a service desk, I started moving towards said desk, and she impatiently smacked my left hand. This has never happened in my 25 years of working at various places in my field.

Going up the chain of command or HR will not have a good outcome for me. I've decided to request FMLA third time, in 2.5 weeks. Let the chips fall where they may.

I am applying for SSDI and have a lawyer for when I'm turned down.

For my sanity, I need to remove myself from this toxic situation.

Oh, you know there has go to be more to this situation...

XanaDUer2 (1,629 posts)

2. I'm nervous about asking for FMLA again

but this tore it for me

Walleye (5,831 posts)

3. You showed remarkable restraint and good sense. I'm Afraid I would've punched her in the 👄

Good luck with your SSDI. A toxic work environment is absolute hell

Star Member CurtEastPoint (14,055 posts)

6. Yikes. That's horrible. What does this mean? "watch a service desk"

Not that your moving to it deserves a slap.

 

XanaDUer2 (1,629 posts)

10. Hi, Curt

she meant move to a desk to help people. She was assigned there, but moved away to fix a PC. I thought she meant move to the desk in her place, but she meant answer the phone. Not sure why she cared.
EDIT: TYPO

Joinfortmill (2,523 posts)

7. Best of luck. May I add a suggestion:

Write down what occurred, date it, and give it to your attorney. Later, once you are out of the situation, you may want to proceed with a grievance.

Star Member raccoon (29,465 posts)

16. And write down who was present at the time. Nt

XanaDUer2 (1,629 posts)

18. Thanks. No one, but

I can document whom I told

 

Humanist_Activist (7,558 posts)

8. Charge her with assault, file a complaint and see where the chips fall...

chances are the company she works for will not put their neck out for an employee who assaults another.

Star Member Lettuce Be (1,552 posts)

43. Seriously if she struck you in any way you should report it

ThatJustHappened (64 posts)

49. File a Police Report

Get it on the record

Even if the police, HR, and whomever calls it an exaggeration

If you file a report then it is on the record and they cannot:

-- retaliate by firing, demoting, etc
-- refuse a FMLA
-- ignore the entire episode

You may be able to sue for damages.

They may see the light and change their ways.

They may offer you a buyout/severance package.


You must get the law on your side. Hiring an attorney on retainer is a good start. Filing a police report is even better. Ask your attorney about it. They will most likely back you 100% in filing a police report.

Also file an OSHA report. Get the Feds involved.

Of course...

if she files a police report for assault they will pull the store's security footage and find out this never happened...

 

XanaDUer2 (1,629 posts)

14. I'm hoping to get SSDI

I'm going to try to never go back

Star Member Warpy (100,048 posts)

13. Do write her up as you leave for FMLA

That is not how adults treat each other and it's not even a good idea to treat kids that way, unless it's a dangerous item you need to get them away from quickly.

Just who the hell does she think she is?

XanaDUer2 (1,629 posts)

15. poor morale, aggression, passive aggression

we got it all at my job

Star Member onethatcares (13,438 posts)

17. what was the immediate reaction from you and her?

was there any conversation related to what happened like, you saying, "Why did you do that?" "What was that all about?" ?

and what was her response?

XanaDUer2 (1,629 posts)

21. I'm embarrassed to say, no

I have a problem with self-esteem and assertiveness. She's a weird person.

XanaDUer2 (1,629 posts)

24. She's gonna freak out when I ask for time off nt

Star Member Celerity (19,551 posts)

26. You really need to speak to an attorney.

So sorry you are being mentally and physically abused.

Star Member sprinkleeninow (12,763 posts)

23. There's a spirit of ugly contagion going around, looks like.

Star Member marble falls (39,341 posts)

30. I worked for a woman owner who would poinr her index at me and then roll her hand ...

... and do the 'come here' thing. I quit after the last time, when I was tired, and I had to stop myself from biting that finger.

It's just not worth taking it from anyone.

XanaDUer2 (1,629 posts)

50. I'm in a red state, so it's probably pointless

XanaDUer2 (1,629 posts)

35. We're short staffed, so she'll be unhappy

when I ask for FMLA

XanaDUer2 (1,629 posts)

39. I have short term disability insurance

and, after 90 days, I'm going for my employer LTD insurance for money while I await ssdi. It's going to be a long haul, but I need to get out of there

Star Member Laffy Kat (13,785 posts)

54. Does your work have CCTV?

Every inch of our clinic except the restrooms and examination rooms is under surveillance. If so, you could have the incidence pulled for review. I'm so sorry that happened to you; what a horrible boss.

 

XanaDUer2 (1,629 posts)

56. We have cameras. A coworker I told mentioned that nt

XanaDUer2 (1,629 posts)

61. Thank you

I took yesterday off due to stress

 

[SSG Snuggle Bunny]

These are the emotional cripples who want war with us.

[SVPete]

Anyway, I was helping her with some PC wires ...

  What IT professional speaks of cords and cables as "wires"? And XanaDUer2 claims to have worked for 25 years in computer and IT jobs?  

XanaDUer2 is leeching off government programs and programs government forces on businesses.

[Texacon]

Oh. My. GOD!

These people are such drama queens and victicrats!

All they can do is think of ways to get others to pay for their miserable existence all while bitching about those who have more than they do and how little they ‘earn’ on the government tit!

KC

[67 Rover]

XanaDUer2 (1,629 posts)

39. I have short term disability insurance

and, after 90 days, I'm going for my employer LTD insurance for money while I await ssdi. It's going to be a long haul, but I need to get out of there

Let me guess your ticket to SSDI is PTSD right?

[DLR Pyro]

XanaDUer2 (1,629 posts)
https://www.democraticunderground.com/100215414863

My boss slapped my hand Tuesday

you, my DU family, have kindly read and commented on my posts here. Mainly, my toxic job, mental health, and future attempt to get SSDI ( please make it easier to get, Mr Biden. Disabled Americans are counting on you).


Anyway, I was helping her with some PC wires, she told me to watch a service desk, I started moving towards said desk, and she impatiently smacked my left hand. This has never happened in my 25 years of working at various places in my field.

Going up the chain of command or HR will not have a good outcome for me. I've decided to request FMLA third time, in 2.5 weeks. Let the chips fall where they may.

I am applying for SSDI and have a lawyer for when I'm turned down.

For my sanity, I need to remove myself from this toxic situation.

sounds like a professional victim

2.5 weeks because her hand was slapped?  WTF

[Zathras]

How much do you want to bet that the DUmbass is the one responsible for a hostile work enviroment and not the lady in its tall tale of woe is me.

[thundley4]

I'm guessing the DUmmie got their hand slapped because they were getting in the way of someone who knew what they were doing. That is why they told the DUmmie to go somewhere else.

[freedumb2003b]

FMLA is not just something you can request like a sabbatical.  There are specific reasons and looking for excuses to goldbrick is not one of them.

The fact this snowflake has asked in the past will work against it.

I wonder the caliber of gun held to its head to keep it in this "toxic job."  Those of us with SKILLS and ABILITY would never stay in such a terrible situation.

I know this type of EE very well.  Uses up sick and vacation leave as fast as they accrue it, clock watcher, grumbler, always offended.  Just this side of insubordinate.  Hard to fire in a large organization as they know every little tiny rule.

The org will be will rid of it.

[BadCat]

The slapping of a hand is something one would do to a child.

Think about that, DUmbass.

[Karin]

XanaDUer2 (1,629 posts)

21. I'm embarrassed to say, no

I have a problem with self-esteem and assertiveness. She's a weird person.

This always happens in these bouncy tales.  A DUmmy will ask the yarn-spinner "did you do or say this or that?"  And the tale-teller always says "no." 

[DLR Pyro]

I'm guessing the DUmmie got their hand slapped because they were getting in the way of someone who knew what they were doing. That is why they told the DUmmie to go somewhere else.

or maybe the hand slap was a Hi-5 to the DUmmy as a sign of teamwork and cooperation....

[DUmpDiver]

Let me guess your ticket to SSDI is PTSD right?

Post Trump Stress Disorder?

[landofconfusion80]

or maybe the hand slap was a Hi-5 to the DUmmy as a sign of teamwork and cooperation....

Bwahahahahaha!

[thundley4]

or maybe the hand slap was a Hi-5 to the DUmmy as a sign of teamwork and cooperation....