bondwooley (1,121 posts) https://www.democraticunderground.com/100210109231
So what do I tell friends and family after finding out that I'm likely terminally ill?
Two weeks ago I couldn't tell if I had the flu or perhaps Bronchitis, which I'm someone prone to get. I didn't have bronchitis, but x-rays showed a lot of weird things going on and then a CT scan showed even more weird stuff. And none of it was going on six months ago when I had a lot of routine tests.
There's no course of treatment until even more test take place next week, which might reveal something they can identify and treat. So, I'm in limbo.
I haven't told friends or family about this because -- well, I won't be able to answer their questions yet. So do I wait until I can answer? Or just give them a heads up and brace myself for calming them down with my last ounces of energy?
Thought maybe someone here might have some food for thought.
Star Member Croney (604 posts)
5. You havent been diagnosed with anything yet?
Or am I misunderstanding? I hope you find out that your malady is treatable and curable.
No- the big ***** is just being a big *****.
Star Member BigmanPigman (9,694 posts)
11. When I was finally properly diagnosed last year my family knew I was sick but I am always sick since I was a teacher and had all sorts of things that were strange like mono at the age of 44 and pneumonia (lost 1/3 of my blood internally), chicken pox, etc and upper respir. illnesses all the time like you. After I checked myself into the hospital and had to stay 4 days since I was is severe pain in my abdomen for 6 months I was finally told they knew what I was complaining about. I told my sister but told her not to tell my parents. My dad asked her and she told him but my mom doesn't know. After my friends didn't hear from me for 6 months I wrote them each a short letter. My neighbors were told by me right away since I may need their help. We don't talk about it much, only when the ACA repeal was going on and finances (for my needed surgeries to temporarily reduce the severe pain until I die) became a serious issue. I also made a very iron clad trust and I needed my family's social security numbers. I am not in severe pain again yet but it is coming at any time so I have been getting ready mentally and getting my affairs in order and going through my stuff. When I am in too much pain to stand it and can't afford the surgeries my family will be ready and my sister has been very supportive and will follow through with my wishes (which is also in my trust...to be definite). She said that my family is willing to go broke paying for my medical bills but I will not allow that to happen. We all feel the same way about life, death, religion (none) and we are all very realistic and practical so that has been very reassuring. We aren't one of those families that fights over stupid stuff or pushes weird ideas and theories on each other. We usually agree on things and respect each other's decisions.
I don't know if this helped or not. Everyone is different so do whatever feels right for you. You will know what that is better than anyone.
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tar Member BigmanPigman (9,694 posts)
20. I am doing what I can while I can.
I can focus my energy on getting the moron out of office and into a padded cell in prison for life. I knew he would get elected before I was diagnosed (I knew it instinctually ever since he went down that gold escalator and no one believed me). I was in a ton of pain at the time and couldn't do much but I am not in pain right now so I feel I need to take advantage of it. Then I can die in peace. That is my personal goal.
Star Member pnwmom (87,741 posts)
22. I am so sorry you are going through all this, Bigmanpigman.
And I know exactly how you feel about telling some family members and not others. I did the same thing when I was going through a serious issue.
It's good that you are setting things in order, but I hope that you have many more good years in front of you.
Just a reminder, this isn't Big Pig's post about dying.... but he made it about him anyway.
Leftists must always make it about them- no matter that someone else is hurting and wanted to pot about it-...
makes you realize that they really don't give a shit about anyone but themselves.
