What a loser. You'd think you'd be able to figure out, being the smartest people on the planet, that your life is the product of your choices. If you haven't "found" yourself at 50 then for God's sake just forget about it. While you're trying to find yourself you're giving your kids a hell of a crappy life! How about you stop trying to find yourself (which focuses on YOU) and start making life better for your kids. YOU had them, YOU dragged them through 2 bad relationships. Again, if you're so intelligent why couldn't you pick better men? Or maybe they weren't so bad, they just thought that their house would be clean, laundry done, etc. Since you've been so busy finding yourself you probably mistook normal expectations in a relationship with abuse.
While you're the one whining and bitching you're forcing your precious children to live in a chaos of your making. YOU should be willing to do anything to provide for your kids. Even 3 minimum wage part time jobs. But no, you're teaching them to be victims, to go through life thinking the world is against them, with no hope, no ambition, no reason to strive for something better. For all your complaining about your abusive relationship (might rethink that superior IQ if you pick 2 assholes in a row), check the life you're giving your kids. Mental abuse is sometimes worse than physical abuse. Bruises heal, spirits not so easily and not without some nasty residue.
But you insult your sister because she's decided providing a good life for her family is worth the sacrifice. And I'd bet you anything (except you have nothing to bet) that part about your sister NOT voting is a lie. She pays taxes, she's got a vested interest. Her hard earned money is going to fund your loser lifestyle while you sit there and have the gall to put her down. And you actually think you're better than her because you think "profound" thoughts about "fairness" (well, you've got time on your hands). It's not your compassion, your love of your fellow man, it's your greed because YOU think you're not getting enough. If you really were concerned about people and caring you'd start with your own children.
Cindie