Some long distance relationships are about delayed gratification while one tends to other responsibilities--folks who are military should understand this. I thought conservatives, who constantly chide dummies for their lack of consideration for such a value, could understand such a concept.
In my world it's the commitment between a couple that really binds them together, helped and sealed with the glue that is mutual respect, consideration, love, and honor of one another. The idea that these qualities are exclusive to only those who live with one another everyday neglects what the glue is that binds two people together. I don't love someone more because they live a mile away from me and I don't love them less if they lived 200 miles away. The glue of it is the commitment to that person, not their proximity to me every hour of the day.
Lack of commitment is available locally as well as long distance. Really in the end one goes on trust either way. All that locally does is make it easier to catch by virtue of availability. Commitment is something that is either there or it isn't and that's true of local or long distance relationships. It's that commitment that pulls any couple through hard times, not just the ones in a long distance situation.
And yes, I too am in a long distance relationship, and I trust the person I am with and they do me. We are exclusive, we love one another, we have a commitment to this, and we are best friends to boot. I'm not in la la land either; we both express our concerns when we have them and don't walk with a head in the proverbial cloud all the time. Like any other relationship, we do the best with our own weaknesses, strengths, and circumstances. Like any other relationship time will prove the true test ultimately.
I'm going to refrain from addressing the tramp comment...it would probably draw up hackles on some folks so I'll let it be...
As for the dummie, I have a feeling she might have said some things about not wanting a marriage or living relationship to sooth herself for being apart with the distance or even because she really didn't know what she wanted. It was fool hearty if she really wanted to be with him. On that, she was foolish and only has herself to blame for not saying what it is she really wanted. It sounds like through her grief, she knows she made a mistake and probably wanted more. My advice to her is to be honest with herself next time, work on her, and then get out there and get to know new people knowing what it is she really wants from a relationship this time. As for the guy, good riddance. He could have told her before he found his new love that he couldn't do it. I mean sex once a month was really enough of a payoff to keep this going on instead of moving on? Please...he just didn't have the emotional fortitude to do it without having a new person to sooth his own emotional shortcomings. She was his insurance when he knew it was over while he looked for someone else and that makes him a pos.
