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Tue Jan 23, 2018, 02:11 PMStar Member MineralMan (103,024 posts)Why Do Some Folks Feel Entitled to Stuff? Read This:I have a next door neighbor. She owns the home to the west of mine. We share a 24' X 75' driveway. For several years, I have used my snowblower to remove snow from that shared driveway, along with the city sidewalk in front of her house, my house, and the house to the east of mine. I do so because my neighbors do not own a snowblower and I do own one. When heavy snow falls, like the 12"+ we received yesterday overnight, it is far easier to remove with a gasoline-powered snowblower than by manual shoveling. So, I've routinely cleared my neighbor's side of our shared driveway, along with the city sidewalk in front of her house, after each snowstorm. I do it at the same time I'm clearing my own. It's not a huge amount of extra work, really, but would be if shoveled manually. So, I just do it. Today, I did that again. When my shared-driveway neighbor returned home, she knocked on my door and complained that I hadn't removed the snow right down to the asphalt in the driveway on her side, as I had on mine. Well, the reason for that is that she and her son had been out in the middle of the snowstorm tramping around her car, which she had driven onto the driveway only after backing and driving forward multiple times. The ruts, along with all the footprints, had frozen and become too compacted for the snowblower to handle. I explained this to her. "Well, I don't see why you didn't shovel it, then, so it was done right" she said. Apparently, she believes that she is somehow entitled to have me clear her driveway perfectly and to her standards after each snowstorm. When she said that, I just looked at her with my mouth agape. She's in her mid-to-late 30s and has a teenaged son. I'm 72 years old. I just turned and went back into my house without saying anything more. I was amazed. She has never once thanked me for clearing her driveway in the past. I don't care. I do it because she doesn't own a snowblower and it's easier for me to do it than it would be for her and her teenaged son to do it. But now, I realize that she believes she is entitled to it. I'm not even sure how to react to this. Probably, the next time it snows, I'll just go ahead and clear her side of the driveway again. It's the neighborly thing to do. But, it still puzzles me. She thinks she is entitled to have me do it, and to have me do it to some standard she has in mind. Where did such an idea come from? Now I understand why she hasn't thanked me for doing it over the past 6 or 7 years. She thinks she is entitled to it being done by her neighbor. Such a belief is difficult for me to even understand. I'm at a complete loss at her attitude. It's a strange, strange world out there, folks.
Star Member chowder66 (2,302 posts) 28. Her sense of entitlement may be because she is being enabled or has been by others with good hearts.You may want to reconsider shoveling her driveway with a different perspective. It's your nature to help out but when your nature to help enables someone to feel entitled and treat others without regard are you really helping her or even yourself? She told you, "you didn't do it right". Why would you do it again if she said that? Don't help her feel entitled is all I'm trying to say. You have to teach people how to behave towards you - she does and you do. If she asks for your help then you will be more clear going forward. She will have asked for the favor and should recognize it as such (and hopefully be grateful) as opposed to only reaping the benefits of your kindness which you have already shown her....by you just being you.
KT2000 (15,108 posts) 41. Brats! Lots of thema "new" parenting style has produced a bunch of entitled, spoiled adults - have seen it too often. I am not saying all but there is certainly a type of younger person that believes they are entitled.On the job they believe they should get paid to stay on their personal phones, their social life is more important than work life, the concept of "service" does not compute, basically it is a self-centered outlook on the world around them. I would say a non-angry education of your neighbor would be in order. At what point do people like this learn that everyone is not their free hired help. Not saying thank you? That is rude, but criticizing is where the line was crossed.
https://www.democraticunderground.com/100210135876Oh, this is rich.Uhm, isn't this kind of what we've been telling them about the welfare leeches?Are snowblowers expensive items? I've never even seen one in real life, just on TV.Some interesting comments over there ... quite telling.KC
